One of the biggest questions I hear my couples taking about is “should we do a first look or not?” and the answer is….THERE IS NO RIGHT ANSWER! But I will go through the pros and cons below to help YOU decide what is best for your wedding day! All right y’all ready? Let’s do this!
The first question you need to ask yourself is, are you ok with breaking ‘traditions’ on your wedding day? If so, then the first look is a good idea for you! I personally didn’t want to see my husband until I walked down the aisle, which i’ll tell you why soon, but it wasn’t my choice. For couples who are ok with “breaking the rules” then YES, first look is for you! If you are the type of person who needs your other half in anxious moments, then a first look is for YOU! Wedding days can be very anxious and being able to see your soon to be partner before your ceremony will definitely help you stay calm and be present on your wedding day. If you want the party to start as soon as you say “I DO” then a first look is for YOU! Doing a first look can help your photographer/videographer get all of your getting ready moments and all of your bridal party pictures done before the ceremony starts! Then all you have to do is family pictures and maybe some portraits of you and your human, and then, the party starts as soon as you say so! If you HATE being emotional in front of your family and friends, then a first look is totally for YOU! Being able to have that time with just your significant other alone is so nice because then the pressure is off. You can ugly cry like Kim Kardashian, laugh so much because you’re so happy, or do a little both without anyone judging you. Plus you can also do a touch up on your makeup before you walk down the aisle so you still look on point girl!
NOW, if you don’t want to do a first look, here are the pros for you. I wanted to see my husband cry his eyes out in front of our friends and family because I love it… so I did a first look with my dad instead and man was it one of my favorite things. Being able to give your dad the first last time to approve of you before you walk down the aisle is such a special moment and every dad cherishes it. If your dad isn’t a part of your life, then you can do this with your mom, grandma, or even your bridal party. Doing some sort of “first look” with someone makes you realize how amazing the people in your life are and how much they love you. Also, if you don’t do a first look, you can always write each other letters to read before the ceremony. This helps give you a sense of peace reading some sweet words from the person you’re about to marry and can make the chaos seem more enjoyable.
Last but not least…if you don’t know what to do, then just do it ALL on your wedding day. Do the letters, the first look with your dad, and the first look with your significant other. Your wedding day is YOUR day and what you want most. Enjoy whatever you do because at the end of the day, you’re married to your best friend and that’s all that matters.